You're Exhausted From Pursuing. They're Exhausted From Withdrawing
[List 3-4 pursue-withdraw signs: one person initiating all talks while other shuts down, feeling rejected or suffocated by roles, trapped in chase-distance neither wants, exhausted from the endless pattern. [Show what therapy does: breaks the pursue-withdraw cycle by addressing what drives both roles, helps both partners feel safe enough to stop the pattern.
The pursue-withdraw pattern isn't about one person being wrong—it's a cycle you're both trapped in.
[Start with one stat from credible source about pursue-withdraw patterns or attachment dynamics in relationships.]
[Start with one stat from credible source about pursue-withdraw patterns or attachment dynamics in relationships.]
Conditions We Address
Pursue-Withdraw Cycles / Emotional Disconnection / Communication Barriers
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How We Help With Pursue-Withdraw Cycles
We Identify Your Triggers
[Explain your process in 2-3 sentences—show how you work with couples on pursue-withdraw cycles.]
We Slow Down The Dance
[Explain your process in 2-3 sentences—show how you work with couples on pursue-withdraw cycles.]
We Teach The Withdrawer To Stay Present
[Explain your process in 2-3 sentences—show how you work with couples on pursue-withdraw cycles.]
We Teach The Pursuer To Create Safety
[Explain your process in 2-3 sentences—show how you work with couples on pursue-withdraw cycles.]
We Identify Your Triggers
[Explain your process in 2-3 sentences—show how you work with couples on pursue-withdraw cycles.]
We Slow Down The Dance
[Explain your process in 2-3 sentences—show how you work with couples on pursue-withdraw cycles.]
We Teach The Withdrawer To Stay Present
[Explain your process in 2-3 sentences—show how you work with couples on pursue-withdraw cycles.]
We Teach The Pursuer To Create Safety
[Explain your process in 2-3 sentences—show how you work with couples on pursue-withdraw cycles.]
Is your partner skeptical about therapy?
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[Write composite couple name + their pursue-withdraw struggle (one always trying to talk, other always shutting down, feeling rejected or suffocated, exhausted from roles) + what they'd tried that didn't work (communication books, date nights, therapy before) + what they feared about couples therapy (too late, pattern too ingrained, one partner seen as problem). 3-4 sentences.]
During Therapy:
[Describe your method briefly—what you worked on first (what drives pursuit and withdrawal for each, attachment wounds beneath pattern, safety for both) + how you worked (mapped their cycle, practiced pausing pattern, new responses in session before trying at home). Keep specific enough to show your process. 3-4 sentences.]
[Three/Four/Five/Six] Months In:
[Start with "still fall into the pattern sometimes—that doesn't disappear" then list specific improvements (can catch cycle earlier, pursuer can pause without feeling abandoned, withdrawer can stay present without flooding, reconnecting faster after distance) + end with ongoing work statement (building new patterns that last, learning to interrupt before it escalates). 3-4 sentences.]
The Difference:
[Write one grounding insight about pursue-withdraw work—keep realistic not aspirational. Pattern: the cycle breaks when both feel safe OR interrupting early matters more than never falling into it.]
*Composite example based on common patterns. Results vary. No guarantee of specific outcomes.
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What Happens If you Stay Stuck in this Cycle?
[Write your introduction reminding them that the pattern won't fix it's self.]
1: [Write what happens if the pattern doesn't change.]
2: [Write what happens if the pattern doesn't change.]
3: [Write what happens if the pattern doesn't change.]
4: [Write what happens if the pattern doesn't change.]
5: [Write what happens if the pattern doesn't change.]
[Write about the reality of what happens when nothing is done. Start the sentence with "I don't say this to scare you..."]
Ready to Break Your Cycle?
The pursue-withdraw pattern won't fix itself. It gets worse over time as resentment builds and connection dies. But it CAN change—I've seen it hundreds of times.
Here's how we'll work together:
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A Complete Couples Care Package
What you get and what happens next
Couples Therapy
What's Included:
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Same-week availability when you're ready to start
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Practical tools and strategies from your first session
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75-minute personalized sessions focused on what matters most to both of you
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Payment questions? Many couples split the cost. I also offer superbills for insurance reimbursement. Let's talk about what works for your situation.
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Ready to Stop Running From Each Other—And Start Moving Toward Connection?
[Write 1-2 sentences explaining what happens here for pursue-withdraw work—pattern: you'll address what drives both roles in cycle + help both partners feel safe to stop pattern + invitation that feels simple for both. Keep under 50 words total.]
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