Perfect—I'm not here to make you cry or dig into childhood trauma unless that's helpful for you. We focus on practical strategies and problem-solving. Think less "therapy couch," more "life coach with clinical training."
Yes. What we discuss stays between us, except in rare situations involving immediate safety concerns. I don't share information with family, employers, or anyone else without your written permission.
That's completely normal and why I'm here to guide the conversation. You don't need to prepare or have an agenda. I'll ask questions that help us figure out what's really going on.
Some people get what they need in 3-4 months. Others work with me for a year or longer. We'll talk about your goals and check in regularly about progress. There's no required timeline.
We check in regularly about what's helping and what's not. If something isn't working, we adjust. And if we're not the right fit, I'll help you find someone who is. You're not stuck.
Most clients tell me the investment pays for itself in better sleep, clearer thinking, and less stress within the first month. You'll have tools you can use for years, not just while we're working together.
I'm out-of-network, which means you pay at the time of service and I provide a superbill for reimbursement. Many clients find their out-of-network benefits cover a portion of the cost.
Both work equally well. Choose whichever feels more comfortable and fits your schedule. Online sessions are secure and private—just grab your laptop and find a quiet spot.
We'll talk about what brought you in, what you're hoping to change, and I'll teach you 1-2 tools you can start using right away. No homework, no pressure—just a conversation that helps.
Click "Book Your Free Consultation" and choose a time that works for you. We'll have a brief call to make sure we're a good fit, then schedule your first session. Most people start within the same week.
If therapy hasn't worked before, there's usually one of three reasons: the therapist wasn't the right fit, the approach wasn't right for what you needed, or the timing wasn't right. The good news? All three of those are fixable. I'm not going to assume what worked (or didn't) for you in past therapy—I'll ask you directly: what helped, what didn't, what you need to be different this time. Past therapy not working doesn't mean therapy doesn't work—it means we need to find what DOES work for you.
You'll notice small things first: a conversation that usually goes sideways actually goes okay. You catch yourself before spiraling instead of spending hours stuck in it. You sleep better. Set a boundary without apologizing for it. Those are the early signs. Over time, the patterns that used to run you start to loosen—you're not as reactive, you're not as stuck, you can handle hard things without falling apart. If you're NOT noticing shifts after 6-8 sessions, tell me. We'll assess what's working and what's not, and adjust.
Absolutely. Sometimes individual therapy helps you realize the patterns aren't just yours—they're relational. Or you start individual work, your partner notices the shifts, and now you both want to work on things together. We can absolutely transition to couples work. The only thing to know: if we've been working together individually for a while, I might refer you to a different couples therapist so there's no bias toward one partner. But I'll help you find the right fit and make sure the transition is smooth.
You're never locked in. You can stop therapy anytime—there's no contract, no minimum number of sessions. That said, the most effective therapy happens when you give it at least 6-8 sessions before deciding if it's working. That's enough time to get past the "getting to know you" phase and actually start working on patterns. If you need to pause or stop, I just ask that we have one wrap-up session to talk about what worked, what didn't, and where you want to go from here. That way you're not just disappearing—you're ending intentionally.
Fit matters more than almost anything in therapy. If after 2-3 sessions something feels off—my style doesn't work for you, the approach isn't clicking, you just don't feel comfortable—please tell me. We'll talk about it directly, and if we decide it's not the right match, I'll help you find someone who IS. I keep a referral list of therapists with different styles and specialties, and I'll make sure you land somewhere good. You're not stuck with me, and there's no penalty for deciding it's not working.
This comes up a lot, and here's the truth: you don't need to have a planned agenda or know exactly what to say. Some sessions, you'll come in with something specific. Other sessions, you'll sit down and think "I don't even know where to start." That's when I'll ask questions that help you find what's underneath—what's been heavy, what's shifted since we last met, what patterns are showing up. My job is to help you see what you can't see on your own. You just need to show up; I'll help you figure out what we're working on.
Most clients notice small shifts within 3-4 sessions—maybe you're sleeping better, or a conversation that usually goes sideways actually goes okay. The bigger patterns (like chronic anxiety, relationship dynamics, or people-pleasing) typically take 3-6 months of consistent work to shift meaningfully. That said, you'll have tools you can use from session one—you're not waiting months to get relief. Therapy isn't about reaching some finish line; it's about building capacity that compounds over time.
Your first session is about understanding what's happening and what you need. We'll talk about what brought you in, what you've already tried, and what you want to be different. I'll ask questions to understand your patterns and strengths—not just your struggles. You'll leave that first session with at least one tool or strategy you can use this week, because I know waiting weeks to feel better doesn't work. First sessions aren't about excavating your entire history—they're about understanding what you need most right now and starting there.
Most clients start with weekly sessions for the first 4-8 weeks—this creates momentum and lets us build on what we're working on before too much time passes. Once you're feeling more stable and have tools you're using regularly, we can shift to bi-weekly or monthly check-ins. You're in control of the frequency, and we adjust based on what's actually working for you.
Individual therapy sessions are 50 minutes—enough time to go deep without feeling rushed, but focused enough that you leave with clear next steps. Most clients find this rhythm works well: we address what's happening now, work through patterns or skills, and you leave with 1-2 things to practice before we meet again. You're not just talking—you're building capacity.
You'll notice small things first: you repair after a fight within hours instead of days. One of you reaches and the other doesn't pull away as hard. You catch the cycle starting and actually interrupt it. Over time, the patterns that used to run you start to loosen—you're not as reactive, you can have hard conversations without it blowing up. If you're NOT noticing shifts after 8-10 sessions, tell me. We'll assess what's working and what's not, and adjust.
Sometimes couples therapy helps you realize one of you needs individual work first before you can work on the relationship together. Or you start couples work, and one of you realizes you need your own space to process separately. We can absolutely talk about transitioning to individual therapy. The only thing to know: if we've been working together as a couple for a while, I'll likely refer you to a different individual therapist so there's no conflict of interest. I'll help you find the right fit and make the transition smooth.
Yes, for couples therapy to work, both partners need to show up consistently. Couples therapy isn't about fixing one person—it's about changing the pattern between you, and that requires both of you in the room. If one of you has to miss occasionally (work trip, illness), that's fine—but if only one person is showing up regularly, that's individual therapy, not couples work. We'll address that directly if it becomes a pattern.
If couples therapy hasn't worked before, there's usually one of three reasons: the therapist wasn't the right fit, the approach wasn't right for your cycle, or one or both of you wasn't ready to change patterns. The good news? All three are fixable. I'm not going to assume what worked (or didn't) for you in past therapy—I'll ask you both directly: what helped, what didn't, what needs to be different this time. Past therapy not working doesn't mean couples therapy doesn't work—it means we need to find what DOES work for you two.
Couples therapy can serve two purposes: helping you reconnect, or helping you separate with clarity and less damage. If one or both of you is considering separation, we address that directly. Sometimes therapy helps couples realize they DO want to stay and gives them tools to rebuild. Other times, it helps couples separate more intentionally—understanding what went wrong, how to co-parent, or how to end without destroying each other. Either way, you'll have more clarity.
If you're both sitting here reading this, you're not too far gone. The Gottman Institute research shows that couples who seek help—even after years of disconnection—can repair if both partners are willing to try. "Too far gone" usually means one or both of you has already decided it's over and you're just going through the motions. If you're genuinely curious whether things can shift, that's enough to start. We'll know within 6-8 sessions if this is working.
That's actually one of the most valuable things that can happen. If your cycle shows up in session—the escalation, the shutting down, the criticism—I can slow it down in real time and help you see what's underneath. It's like watching game film: you can't see the pattern when you're in it at home, but in session, I can pause it and show you what's actually happening. Conflict in session isn't a failure—it's useful data.
Most couples notice small shifts within 4-6 sessions—maybe you repair after a fight faster, or a conversation that usually escalates actually stays calm. The deeper patterns (pursue-withdraw, criticism cycles, disconnection) typically take 3-6 months of consistent work to shift meaningfully. That said, you'll have tools you can use from session one—you're not waiting months to get relief. Couples therapy isn't about reaching some finish line; it's about learning to interrupt cycles, repair faster, and reconnect when you're stuck.
No. My job isn't to decide who's right or wrong—it's to help you see the cycle you're stuck in and interrupt it together. If one of you feels like I'm siding with the other, please tell me immediately. Sometimes one partner needs more validation in a particular session because they're shutting down—but over time, you'll both feel seen and challenged. Couples therapy only works when both partners trust I'm for the relationship, not for one person.
This happens in about 70% of couples who start therapy (Gottman Institute, 2023)—one person is pushing for help, the other is reluctant or skeptical. That's completely normal, and it doesn't mean therapy won't work. Often the reluctant partner just needs to see that I'm not taking sides and therapy isn't about blaming them. Most reluctant partners soften once they realize they're not being ganged up on.
Your first session is about understanding what's happening between you, what you've already tried, and what you want to be different. I'll ask both of you questions to understand your cycle—who pursues, who withdraws, what triggers the pattern. You'll leave that first session with clarity about your pattern and at least one tool to interrupt it this week. First sessions aren't about excavating your entire relationship history—they're about understanding what you need most right now and starting there.
Most couples start with weekly sessions for the first 6-10 weeks—this creates momentum and lets us work on patterns before they get entrenched again. Once you're interrupting cycles on your own and using tools regularly, we can shift to bi-weekly or monthly check-ins. The frequency depends on how stuck you are right now. We'll adjust based on what's actually working for your relationship.
Couples therapy sessions are 50-60 minutes—longer than individual sessions because there are two people sharing air time. Most couples find this rhythm works: we address what's happening between you, work on the pattern, and you leave with 1-2 tools to practice together. You're not just talking about your relationship—you're actively changing the patterns in real time.
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